Embracing the Meno-Fog Madness

Misti Graham
Oct 5
2 min read

Updated: 3 days ago

When Your Brain Hits “Buffering”

Perimenopause and menopause aren’t shy about messing with your memory. Estrogen dips, hormones shuffle, and suddenly your sharp mind feels like dial-up internet. One second you’re firing off witty comebacks, the next you’re stuck mid-sentence wondering if you even speak English.

And of course, it always happens at the worst possible time:

In a meeting, right as it’s your turn to sound brilliant.
On a Zoom call, where your blank stare gets screen-recorded forever.
Mid-story, when you forget the ending and just say, “Anyway, you had to be there.”

It’s Not Just You

Here’s the thing: up to 60% of women report memory lapses, concentration issues, and good ol’ brain fog during menopause. (See? I did my homework before I forgot what I was doing.) This isn’t about being flaky — it’s biology. And it’s normal. You’re not broken, you’re buffering. The Menopause Mafia is proof you don’t have to go through it alone. Every time one of us loses our car keys in the freezer, just remember, another one of us is laughing with you, not at you.

Coping, Mafia-Style

There’s no magic fix (unless you count wine and swearing, which weirdly, doctors don’t). But there are ways to make brain fog less of a menace:

Label everything. Sticky notes are your new love language.
Outsource your memory. Alarms, apps, Alexa, Siri — if it talks back, it’s hired.
Fake confidence. When you forget something, act like it was a test and everyone else failed.

And when you forget what you’re doing mid-sentence? Just shrug and say, “Classic menopause.” Own it.

Why We Talk About This

Because pretending brain fog isn’t happening doesn’t make it go away. The more we normalize these moments, the less shame we carry. The Menopause Mafia exists to remind you that you’re not alone — and that you’re still brilliant, even if you can’t remember where you left your damn glasses.

The Power of Community

Let’s face it, navigating this phase can feel like trying to find a needle in a haystack. But here’s the kicker: you’re not alone in this chaotic journey. The Menopause Mafia is a vibrant community where we share our stories, our laughs, and yes, our brain fog moments.

Imagine a sisterhood where every “Oops, I forgot” is met with a chorus of “Same!” It’s like a support group, but with more wine and fewer awkward silences. We’re here to lift each other up, share practical tips, and sprinkle in a healthy dose of humor.

Finding Your Groove Again

So how do we reclaim our brains? It’s all about finding what works for you. Maybe it’s journaling your thoughts, or perhaps it’s indulging in a little self-care. Whatever it is, make it a priority.

And hey, if you find yourself in a fog, don’t sweat it. Embrace it! It’s just your brain’s way of saying, “Hey, let’s take a break from all that thinking.”